The tricky thing about defining trauma is that it’s subjective—not like strep throat, where you take a test that comes back positive or negative. So, how do you know if you've been through trauma?

“How are you?” “Fine!” Sometimes that answer is completely fine. But what about when a friend or loved one asks you how you’re doing—like, how you’re really doing—and all you can manage to give them is one of those surface-level answers? You may be missing out on the power of self awareness, and the depth it can bring to your relationships.

Let’s admit it: most of us hate conflict. And it’s hard. Read on for some practical tips on what to do next time you find yourself stuck in conflict with no idea where to go (or what to say) next.